THE MESSAGE DURING THE WEDDING OF BRO. ONYEMA & SIS. CHIKA BRO. CHRISTIAN & SIS. BLESSING Preached On Saturday 12th June 1999 At The Household of God, Onitsha By APOSTLE PETER ODOEMENA THE SON OF MAN THE LORD GOD ALMIGHTY
In the beginning, God ordained it so. That is why when we bring them in, we nurture them a little, we give them a little milk, a little solid food. When they are stabilized, they become adults in our Faith. We will bring the bone, we put it inside their mouths and say, “Brother, this is our stand, this is the Message of the hour; Sister, this is our stand, this is the Message of the hour.” Amen.
MARRIAGE—THE OLDEST INSTITUTION ORDAINED BY GOD (VOLUME 1); Preached on 7th November, 1993; Pg. 11 vs. 11
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MARRIAGE: THE OLDEST INSTITUTION ORDAINED OF GOD [1]
Let us stand while we read the Scriptures. Somebody should be doing the reading for Me. A perfect reader is what I need. Do not just scramble to read. If you are reading, come where you will use the microphone. I will read few Scriptures and say few words and come down.
2. Genesis chapter 2. Genesis means “BEGINNING”. And if we cannot trace the beginning of marriage, there is a problem. We read from verse 18.
3. Genesis 2:18 – 25 King James Version. And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a help meet for him.
4. And out of the ground the Lord God formed every beast of the field, and every fowl of the air; and brought them unto Adam to see what he would call them: and whatsoever Adam called every living creature, that was the name thereof.
5. And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found a help meet for him.
6. And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept; and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof.
7. And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman,… Please, underline verse 22 in your Bible.
8. I TOLD YOU IN THE BEGINNING THAT A WOMAN IS FORMED AND NOT CREATED.
9. And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.
10. And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.
11. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.
12. May God bless you all in the name of Christ our LORD. Be seated everybody.
13. I am going to say few words from where we have read. If you are a member of this Church, I will only aim at reminding you of what you have already been taught.
14. But to our visitors today, I am saying the few words for you to bear witness here that you heard what these couples were told on the day of their wedding.
15. Marriage is the oldest institution ordained of God. Genesis is the beginning of everything. And we can see that in the beginning, God ordained marriage.
16. EVERYTHING HAS CHANGED, BUT THERE ARE TWO THINGS THAT HAVE NOT CHANGED. PLEASE PAY ATTENTION HERE.
17. There are people that are vested with the responsibility to receive our visitors. The rest, pay attention here. I do not know how long I am going to stay, but let Me strike one point in your hearts.
18. MANY THINGS HAVE CHANGED, BUT THERE ARE TWO THINGS THAT HAVE NOT CHANGED. ONE IS THE WAY HUMAN BEINGS APPEAR ON EARTH. ANOTHER IS THE WAY HUMAN BEINGS GO BACK TO WHERE THEY CAME FROM.
19. Mankind has tampered with everything God created. But all the attempt so far made to tamper with the way people come to earth and the way they go away; all the attempts have proved abortive.
20. Now, we focus our attention on marriage. God laid a perfect example of marriage in the Garden of Eden. We know the story of marriage very well. And I believe all of you here belong to one denomination or the other.
21. And you must have heard your preachers say one thing or the other concerning marriage. What I may be saying today may not be too different from what you were hearing before.
22. But let Me strike one thing there. God ordained marriage from the very beginning. If God said, “It is not good for a man to be alone and that he requires a help meet for him”, there is no human being born of a woman that will come and say that the plan of God should been cancelled.
23. Anybody that encourages a young man not to marry is acting contrary to the revealed Word of God. Please pay attention to what I am saying.
24. I know some of you have read the Bible. You may ask, “What about saint Paul?” Well, I will talk to you on that. You ask Me, “What of the Lord Jesus?” I will tell you, “The Lord Jesus married.”
25. If you do not know His wife, ask Me, and I will show you from the Bible. If you look at saint Paul’s teachings, you may even cancel the mind of God.
26. Saint Paul said he was proffering his own opinion, and that he is wishing that every man should be like he is, but to avoid sexual abuse, let every man have his own wife.
27. But I am trying to tell you something. From the beginning, Almighty God never said that a man should get married to run away from sexual immorality. There is no Scripture like that in the beginning.
28. Now, I want to ask you a question. If you doubt what I am going to say, I am here telling you as God’s servant, as your Watchman, that marriage does not stop sexual immorality.
29. A man can still marry up to twenty wives, and yet have his eyes on other women. If marriage stops sexual immorality, why could they not stop it after having up to twenty wives?
30. Many of you here are married. If you are sincere to yourselves, in spite of your marriage, at one time or the other, have you not seen yourself even eyeing other women and lusting after other women? If marriage stops it, why are you lusting after other women?
31. What am I trying to say? Marriage does not stop that. It is a spirit. That is not My Message, but I want to face marriage proper.
32. Almighty God said, “It is not good that a man should stay without a wife.” Get Me Igbo Bible. I want to show you something in Igbo Bible.
33. Look at verse 23 of Genesis Chapter 2. And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.
34. King James translation missed the exclamation that followed Eve’s formation. Read that verse 23 in Igbo let us see the way Igbo translated this Message.
35. Mmadu ahu wee si, “Ehee!” What? Mmadu ahu wee si, “Ehee!” Again! Mmadu ahu wee si, “Eheee!” Mmadu ahu wee si, “Eheee!”
36. And this is the topic I want to speak on. The Igbo version said that the man said, “Eheee!” I am saying that when a man gets married, he makes “Eheee!”
37. At the same time, when a lady is of age, and she is not yet married, her heart is never at rest. But the moment she gets married, she exclaims, “Eheee! If I will be killed by hunger, let it be. If I am going to go naked, let it be. I now have a husband.”
38. Alleluia! Let Me just tell you something. You know women by nature, they are full of hypocrisy. It is their nature. When they say “Yes”, they mean No! When they say “No”, they mean Yes!
39. We cannot kill them because from the beginning, transgression is their hobby. I say, transgression is their hobby. Do not ask Me why.
40. A woman is the negative side of a man. That is why no woman reasons positively. Every woman is a negative thinker. Every attempt to bring her to the right corner will bring trouble.
41. And in her negative thinking, she has such a powerful force that she will try her best to corner that man to that negative side. I am coming to something.
42. The Bible said clearly, “Of all God created, two-two in everything.” When it came to man, man was alone. There was none to discuss and communicate with him.
43. So, Adam lacked COMPANIONSHIP. Adam could not use chimpanzee as companion. Lion could not fill the gap. No goat to discuss with Adam. Adam could see them having fellowship, one to the other, but Adam could not have fellowship.
44. Adam was desiring somebody that would commune with him, but he could not express it. The Bible said that God knows the thoughts of our hearts. [Psalms 139:1 – 2, Jeremiah 17:10, Romans 8:27]
45. God heard the thoughts of Adam’s heart, and then caused Adam to sleep. From his ribs, He [God] took one and formed a woman. What God formed was full-fledged woman, not a baby and not a girl. A full-grown adult woman.
46. And he caused Adam to wake up. When Adam woke up from sleep, instead of running away because he had never seen such a creature before, that creature was not there when Adam slept;
47. Adam got up to see such a strange being. Instead of running away, Adam embraced her and exclaimed, “Eheee!” which goes to show that Adam had been thinking about this matter. This thing had been disturbing Adam’s heart.
48. When a man gets his heart desire, he makes, “Eheee!” That goes to show you that marriage is ordained even by nature.
49. Now, we come out further. Before we look into marriage from the procreation angle, let us consider the relationship between this man and the woman.
50. Dan, can you cope with My interpretation? From the look of things, this man is fainting. You know, it is not easy to pass through this experience he is passing now. No man suffers more than a young man that is not yet settled with his own wife. He passes sleepless nights.
51. When a man is at this building stage, when he is trying to establish himself, he behaves like a mad man.
Marital life is a ministry. Because marriage is a ministry, somebody is “bound to make a shipwreck” of his marital ministry – man or woman. Some are likely to make full proof of their ministries. ….. Strive to make full proof of your marital life. ….. If you see your marital relationship with your wife as a “ministry” and your wife sees it as her ministry, both of you will strive earnestly to do everything within your power to make full proof of your ministries, making sure that nobody will look down on you. – Son of Man
WHEN THE SPARKS FLY IN YOUR MARITAL LIFE; Pg. 8 vs. 8 – 9 / MARRIAGE—THE OLDEST INSTITUTION ORDAINED BY GOD (VOLUME 1); Preached on 7th November, 1993; Pg. 3
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So Brethren, look up this way. Watch where the woman was taken from. The Bible said that God is the only wise God [1 Timothy 1:17]. God in His wisdom decided that He must form a woman from the side of the man.
2. God brought out one of the ribs. Any man arguing it is arguing with God. Why did God bring the woman out from the man’s side? If you watch that position where the woman came out from, there is wisdom there.
3. If God had taken the woman from the side of the head, the woman will be claiming equality with the husband.
4. If God had taken the woman from the hand of a man, the man and the woman will be exchanging blows from that day.
5. If God had taken the woman from the leg side, kicking and kicking will never cease there.
6. But God took a woman from the side where the overlapping arms of the man will always overlap her. Somebody did not get what I am saying. I am saying that the overlapping hand of the man always overlaps his wife.
7. Number one reason why a woman gets married is PROTECTION. I say it is Protection. If you are a man and you cannot give your wife adequate protection, all-round protection, surely, you have disappointed your wife, for the overlapping hand of the man will always protect his wife.
8. In other words, the woman is taken from the weak side. And by nature, she is weak. And the Bible said we should dwell with them as weaker vessels. [1 Peter 3:7]
9. But unfortunately today, so-called married men do not realize that. Instead they try to exercise full authority and show the essence of excessive blow with the weaker vessel.
10. YOU ARE DISCOURAGING YOUR WIFE IF YOU ARE BEATING YOUR WIFE. YOU ARE EVEN MAKING HER REGRET MARRIAGE. BUT MARRIAGE IS HONOURABLE IN ALL, WITH THE MARRIAGE BED UNDEFILED. [Hebrews 13:4]
11. God ordained marriage from the very beginning, and God has not cancelled it. Now, the Bible said, “For this reason shall a man leave his parents and then cleave to his own wife. The two shall be one.” [Genesis 2:24] God said so from the very beginning.
12. So today, Bro Onyema! Bro Christian Dike! Please pay attention here. Here, the Bible did not say a woman will leave her parents. Are you hearing what I am saying?
13. The Bible said, “A MAN will leave his father and his mother and cleave to his wife, and the two shall be one.” Amen.
14. Please pay attention. This matter is a serious matter. Satan has attacked so many homes due to lack of knowledge of the holy Scriptures. A man must abandon his parents, cleave to his own wife and the two shall be one.
15. So, once a man gets married, he is saying bye bye to his parents. Parents, please pay attention. Almighty God said it should be so. I will tell you the extent of that bye bye.
16. That is why a boy is not supposed to marry. A girl is not supposed to marry. It takes a man and a woman to marry. You may have grey hair, and you are hundred years of age, yet you are a boy. We have married bomboys. We have married girls.
17. Please pay attention. A man is not a man until he has that backbone, that Capacity to establish his stand for his own family and dictates how his family should be.
18. ANY MAN THAT IS STILL UNDER THE CONTROL OF HIS PARENTS IS STILL A BOY. I DO NOT CARE ABOUT YOUR AGE. ARE YOU HEARING WHAT I AM SAYING?
19. A MAN IS ONE THAT WILL STAND BOLDLY AND CONDEMN HIS FATHER, CONDEMN HIS MOTHER IN THEIR FACES.
20. ANY MAN THAT IS MARRIED AND FROM TIME TO TIME, HE IS CONSULTING HIS MOTHER AND HIS FATHER ON THE WAY HE MUST LIVE WITH HIS WIFE, HE IS A BOMBOY.
21. Before he will buy clothes for his wife, his mother will authorize it, or else no more. Any little problem in the house, he will invite his mother and his father to come and look into the matter. He is a boy. He is not a man.
22. EVERYBODY PAY ATTENTION. NOTHING SPOILS THE HOME MORE THAN THE ENCROACHMENT OF FATHERS-IN-LAW AND MOTHERS-IN-LAW. PEOPLE GOD SAID WE SHOULD SAY BYE BYE TO THEM. THEY CAN HARDLY ACCEPT GOD’S WORD AND STAY ON THEIR OWN.
23. SO PLEASE PAY ATTENTION. NO MATTER THE SITUATION, YOUR FATHER IS A STRANGER TO YOUR FAMILY. YOU MOTHER IS A STRANGER TO YOUR FAMILY.
24. IT IS YOUR DUTY TO CONVINCE EVERYBODY THAT YOU ARE A CAPABLE HUSBAND, THAT YOU CAN MARRY YOUR OWN WIFE, AND HAVE RULE OVER HER.
25. Parents, pay attention. Brothers pay attention. If you are a man, and you are giving your wife a warning, “We had resolved in our family. Any wife we will marry that will come here and insult our mother one day, we will send her home”, you are a bomboy. Who is your mother?
26. If your mother does not want to be insulted, she should steer clear from your family. An Igbo adage says that the bush or forest that abhors baskets should never grow mushrooms.
27. What am I saying? Parents of Brother Onyema! He is saying bye bye to you today. Whether you are senior brother, junior brother, mama or papa, senior sister, I do not care.
28. The Bible said he must leave all of you and now cleave to his own wife, and own his own home with his own wife.
29. You know mothers are bad because they are highly jealous. Mothers, by nature, are jealous and selfish. Outside, you think they are wishing their sons well. Within, in the kitchen, you will hear the one that is true.
30. When you see them outside, they will be talking, “I do not know what is hindering Onyema from getting married. Look at Christian. All his mates have gotten married. I do not know why he is not married. Help me talk to him o.”
31. You may think she means it. She does not mean it. If Onyema will go to her, “Mama, I have seen a beautiful lady I want to marry”, you will hear her reaction.
32. “What are you talking? Have you completed this building? Look at this your senior brother. What have you done for him? Look at your junior sister. Have you trained her? Is marriage the number one thing you will do?”
33. IF A YOUNG MAN IS WAITING UNTIL HE HAS SOLVED EVERY PROBLEM IN HIS FATHER’S COMPOUND, HE WILL NEVER MARRY IN LIFE.
34. THERE IS NO HUMAN BEING ON EARTH THAT WILL FINISH SOLVING ALL HIS PROBLEMS BEFORE HE DIES. THERE IS NO END TO PROBLEMS. WHEN A MAN DIES, HIS PROBLEMS WILL DIE.
35. What am I saying? Watch those wicked mothers. They can never allow their sons to have rest in their marital homes. And because she did not welcome that marriage with all her heart, she will now bend down to find faults.
36. Every step the wife takes, she [the mother in-law] will interpret it. The first day the son’s wife was presented to her, watch her reaction. Her face will swell.
37. “Is that why you travelled the long distance. In our village here, did you not see mature and beautiful girls here? You preferred to travel a long distance only to come back with this one.”
38. From that day, she has already developed hatred, because right from the beginning, she never supported that marriage because her son has not finished solving all her problems.
39. Everywhere is tensed. I love the environment. Watch those wicked mothers. They do not know how their son has been faring in the township. And they do not care to know whether their son has looked into the future and the only thing he can now do is to settle down with his own wife.
40. WHAT NORMALLY PUTS YOUNG MEN INTO TROUBLE IS THE DEMAND FROM THEIR PARENTS BECAUSE PARENTS NORMALLY HAVE VERY HIGH AMBITIONS FOR THEIR SONS.
41. BUT IT IS NOT COMPULSORY THAT THE MAN MUST BUY A CAR BEFORE HE THINKS OF MARRIAGE; OR BUILD A MANSION. NO! IT IS NOT COMPULSORY.
42. BUT IT IS COMPULSORY THAT BEFORE HE THINKS ABOUT MARRIAGE, HE MUST HAVE AT LEAST ONE BEDROOM AND PARLOUR. HE MAY BE THE LANDLORD OR HE MAY BE PAYING RENT THERE. BUT THE ONE ROOM AND PARLOUR BELONGS TO HIM AND HIS WIFE.
43. A MAN THAT HAS NO RESIDENTIAL PLACE IS NOT QUALIFIED TO THINK OF MARRIAGE. SOMEBODY THAT IS SQUATTING WITH FRIENDS, CAN YOU TAKE SOMEBODY’S DAUGHTER AND START SQUATTING WITH FRIENDS.
44. My friend where are you living? I am just hanging about. How can you take somebody’s daughter and be hanging about?
45. For you to think of marriage, being a man, you must have come to the point where you will be prepared to cushion all those arrows that will be coming to you from your mother and from your relations, all because of your wife. That is number one.
46. Do not think everybody in your house will say welcome to your wife. No! Not everybody will welcome her. It is hard to believe. But I will talk to women on that if time permits Me. They have already been taught. But I am talking to men in particular.
47. The Bible said, “A man must separate from his parents” and not the woman. Separation is very difficult to some men. That man is not qualified to think of marriage.
48. Women are jealous. Mothers! You are highly jealous. Some of them may not know the financial capability of their son.
49. Once they see the man losing weight after marriage, automatically, they will conclude that the wicked woman he married has finished his money when they never knew that their son has already started crumbling before he thought of marriage. He just married a woman that will help him out, not a woman that will manage his affairs.
50. Mothers do not know that. Once they see their son coming down with food, giving them one thousand or two thousand naira, they will think their son has gotten money in the township.
51. They may not know that the man is owing arears of house rent. Goods that are in his shed are bought on credit. Once they see the man now emaciating a little, they will conclude that the wife has lavished his wealth. Yes! Sister, do not be afraid. Lavish it.
52. I WILL KEEP ON SAYING IT. ANY MAN, WHO THE WOMAN THAT IS HIS WIFE EXHAUSTS HIS MONEY, FROM THE BEGINNING, THE MAN HAS NO MONEY. I SAY, FROM THE ONSET, THE MAN HAS NO MONEY. ALLELUIA!
53. Mothers! Listen to Me. It is a serious matter. You can hate Me today. Tomorrow, you will love Me. You have married your own husband. You enjoyed your honeymoon with your own husband. You enjoyed your husband in his youth. You enjoyed his wealth.
54. Why not allow our Sister to enjoy her own husband? That person you are claiming to be your son, you now want to protect him from failure. The one that married you, has he no mother?
55. The one that married you is somebody’s son. You cannot enjoy your husband and then later enjoy another woman’s husband. That is wickedness. It is wickedness.
56. Allow your daughter in-law to enjoy her own husband. It is her own time. Your own time is over with your own husband. If your husband is not bringing something, go to your home and trouble him.
57. Marriage does not end until the man dies. Whatever your son is giving you, he can never take the position of your husband. This is what destabilizes families. Encroachment of mother in-laws into the homes.
58. When the woman makes ordinary stew, may be with fresh fish, there will be trouble, “This lady. The way I am looking at her, she will finish my son’s money o. Every day stew stew stew!”
59. If she comes back with polythene bag, or a black bag, may be it is toilet roll inside, she has already concluded that he has finished the whole fish in the market.
60. The troubles of mother in-laws have become so much that the Almighty God is no longer happy with them.
61. Now, husband and wife hear Me. God said you are one. Take off your eyes there. Nobody is bringing gift to you. That person you are expecting to come from Warri and Lagos, what if he does not come? I hope you are still a believer.
62. You know, worldly people fix marriage because of what they can get, but children of God fix marriage because they want to introduce their wife to the public.
63. I hope you are not sitting here for sitting sake. All I have been saying have been flying over your head because you were expecting a big wedding.
64. But Brother Christian looks relaxed because he knows that his own mother is involved in this matter. His relations are involved because if it is possible for his relations to cancel his marriage, they would have done that.
65. If he had consulted them before going into marriage, surely they would have said No! This is because they had programmes for him. But they do not know whether he has money to accomplish it in this life.
66. So, what am I saying? God has joined you with your wife to be one and not two. Any other person is a stranger to your home. You are to convince God and humanity, that you are a capable husband and that you are a man with backbone.
67. After your own mother, you now face your mother in-laws. After talking to you man, I will talk to you woman. Mother in-laws are bad.
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n every marriage, there is always a trial. The trials can come in different forms. In all, they are trials.
2. A young man might be doing well in business, but the moment he gets married, the tempter will come, tamper with his business to the extent that even feeding becomes a problem.
3. A young man full of life can get married. After many years, no fruit of the womb. A young man may get married to a young lady. In all their youth, no sickness.
4. But from the day they are joined together in marriage, sickness will come from nowhere. From one hospital to another hospital. It can be either the man or the woman. At that time, watch out.
5. If it is happening to the lady, watch out. Wait for the mother in-law. Your wife’s mother. At that time, she will be sending invitation upon invitation, “My daughter, let me see you tomorrow. If I do not see you, whatever that happens to me there will be problem.”
6. That time, you will see that mothers- in-law are wicked. So, for a man to survive it, do not ever permit your wife to go home to see her mother without your going with her. If she is going, you will be with her. Take her to your mother in-law. Are you getting what I am saying?
7. Many many things pass on in the kitchen and in the backyard. If she enters the kitchen, enter there with them. You see them outside, follow them to the backyard. Do not give any space.
8. If you give a space, the mother will inject into her a serious poison that will destabilize your family. When she comes back, her countenance will change. You will be wondering what took place. You do not know it is injection given to her by the mother.
9. “My daughter, please tell me. This your husband, is he a man at all? Is he a man? Are you sure? One year? This one is now holding three babies. That one, two babies. Look at yourself. Somebody that married last year. Are you sure he is a man? Forget about church.”
10. She will inject poison. Before you know it, the woman’s faithfulness is gone. Her loyalty is gone. She becomes very hostile and stubborn! That time she will be answering you back. This is what the mother has injected into her.
11. You Sisters here, please pay attention. I know that you have mothers. Your parents might be living very well. The highest testimony they may have may not be different from the one My father was having.
12. This is because My father use to tell Me, “My son, go and enquire from the whole village. Since I married your mother, I have never for one day pushed her.”
13. I will say, “Thank you Papa. It is because you are a sissified man. You have no backbone. If you have backbone, you would have pushed her.” Do not worry. I am not encouraging you to push your wife.
14. Sisters, take note. I know you all came from homes. Your homes were never Christian homes. For some of you, your mothers were very stubborn and disobedient to their husbands.
15. And then you grew up and saw them in that condition. Some of you even coveted that devilish character. But now that you have come into Christ, you have to put all these things aside.
16. I am saying that you are going to have a hypothetical picture of your own home. The home is built by a wise woman, but the foolish woman destroys her own home.
17. For you to succeed as an ideal mother, you must first of all, build a mental picture of the type of family you will have. If you do not have a mental picture of what your family will look like, you are like a ship without a captain.
18. Any man that has no target walks like a mad man. A mad man is always at walk. Always on the move when he has no destination.
19. When you paint a mental picture of your home, it becomes your masterpiece. When you achieve it, you will know. And you will never rest until you have achieved it, if you are a child of God.
20. I thank God we have the model family here on earth. I say, I thank God we have the model family here on earth. The Bible said we should look unto Abraham our father and Sarah our mother. [Isaiah 51:2]
21. So please, I am saying that you should say bye bye to all those foolish trainings you collected from your parents. You must cleave to your own husband. Two of you should be one. Whomever that will separate the two of you, that person is not from God.
22. HEAR ME VERY WELL. FROM TODAY, YOU ARE SAYING BYE BYE TO YOUR FATHER’S NAME. YOU RATHER TAKE THE NAME OF YOUR HUSBAND. YOU WILL IDENTIFY WITH HIM IN ALL THINGS. NOW, TWO OF YOU MUST WALK TOGETHER AS ONE.
23. WHATEVER THAT WILL DESTABILIZE ANY FAMILY IS THE GREATEST ENEMY OF THAT FAMILY. IF IT IS YOUR MOTHER, YOU AND HUSBAND WILL JOIN HANDS AND PUSH HER OUT.
24. IF IT IS YOUR FATHER, JOIN HANDS AND PUSH HIM OUT. IF IT IS YOUR PASTOR, JOIN HANDS AND PUSH HIM OUT.
25. YOU MUST LEARN TO SOLVE YOUR PROBLEMS ALONE. I HAVE TAUGHT YOU THAT APART FROM THE MAN AND THE WIFE, EVERY OTHER PERSON IS A STRANGER TO THAT FAMILY. EVEN IF HE IS YOUR SON, HE IS A STRANGER.
26. ANY PROBLEM BETWEEN A MAN AND HIS WIFE SHOULD NOT COME OUT FROM THE BEDROOM. IT WILL BE RESOLVED IN THE BEDROOM. IT PAYS TO KNOW THE TRUTH.
27. I AM SAYING, MARITAL PROBLEMS SHOULD NOT EXCEED THE MARITAL BED. AS CHILDREN OF GOD, YOU MUST RESOLVE IT IN YOUR MARITAL BEDS.
28. IT SHOULD NOT GO TO YOUR PARLOUR AT ALL. YOU SHOULD NOT INVITE ANYBODY, MAN OF GOD. I DO NOT CARE WHO THE PERSON IS. HE IS A STRANGER.
29. AND ONCE A STRANGER COMES INTO YOUR MARITAL PROBLEMS, THE HOME IS FINISHED. I SAY THE HOME IS FINISHED.
30. If you cannot understand yourselves, at all times, it then means you are not children of God. In everything, allow the love of God to project. Once love projects, the problem is solved.
31. I will not over-flogged this Message. Time is not on our side. I mean here and also concerning the hour. God permitted you to get married because if you do not have any dog here, you cannot havea dog in Paradise.
32. I will give you another Scripture before I come down. A man does not commit crime because he has married. Rather, it is honourable. It is something every body cherishes.
33. Proverbs 12:4 King James Version. A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones.
34. Proverbs 19:14 King James Version. House and riches are the inheritance of fathers: and a prudent wife is from the Lord.
35. One that makes her husband ashamed is rotten to her bones. A Prudent wife is from the LORD.
36. Women! Pay attention here. If the Bible says that you are your husband’s crown and you must always behave yourself so that the man will be glorified, any day you remove yourself from that position, you are incurring the wrath of God.
37. The moment you recognize that you are your husband’s crown; in other words, your husband holds his head high because of you, I do not think that there is something more glorious than that.
38. But it baffles me that something that is meant for our comfort has turned out to be for our destruction.
39. If you are one that is always putting your husband to shame, the Bible said you
are worse than cancer.
40. First of all, find out your husband’s likes and dislikes. That thing you know your husband does not like, please avoid it.
41. But women by nature, if you tell them something you do not want, that is the time they will be toying with it. If you do that, you are breaking your home.
42. Convince everybody that you are a wise wife; A prudent wife, by honouring your own husband at all times, honouring his word, seeing your husband as head over you. That is where I am going to sign and then come down because time is not on My side.
43. Ephesians 5:25 – 26. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; that he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,…
44. Husbands! Love your wives, and be prepared to die in their place because of the love you have for them. Christ died for our sake.
45. AND THE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN CHRIST AND THE CHURCH SHOULD BE THE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN HUSBAND AND WIFE.
46. WHAT IS THAT LOVE? THE LOVE GOES BEYOND BUYING WRAPPER AND FEEDING THE WOMAN. NOTHING PLEASES A WOMAN MORE THAN THE HEALING TOUCH OF HER HUSBAND’S HAND.
47. WHAT A WOMAN LOVES AND APPRECIATES IS AN UNDERSTANDING HUSBAND THAT WILL ALWAYS SIT DOWN BY HER SIDE, HAVING HER FEELING SHARED WITH HIM.
48. Some husbands are experts. The only thing they know is coming to the woman, providing money and then run away. Money is not their problem. Some do not even recognize when their wife is sick.
49. They will only be shouting and shouting and be giving instructions anyhow. Whatever the woman is passing through is not their business. Where the man should show attention, he simply gives her money, “Okay, you can go to hospital.”
50. They can hardly take that woman to see a doctor. Find out exactly what the woman is passing through.
51. Any man that wants his family to survive, must whole heartedly convince his own wife that he loves her by giving her this protection. In the times of need, make sure you are around.
52. Let me just show you an example of what I mean. I know all men are not the same, but a man of virtue really appreciates all the efforts of the wife.
53. If your wife is sick, you may have 20 maidservants in the house, and you want your wife to recover, enter the kitchen and start preparing food with your own hands.
54. Even if she is dying, before you know it, she will crawl into the kitchen. Before you know what is happening, she will be directing you gradually.
55. She will even appreciate that food which you prepared with your own hands than the one your maidservants prepared.
56. What am I saying? Be prepared to take her place in the time of trouble. When you assure this woman of this safety, assure her you will not betray her in the end, that you will secure her at all times, honestly she will lavish her love around you.
57. Any woman that will not reciprocate that type of love is not worthy to be called a wife.
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ome have come to Me to say that they do not know what to do to please their own wife. I asked them what they have done. They will start telling Me how they bought dresses and bought watches and bought this and that.
2. I say, “My friend, you have tried. Have you at any time sat down with your wife to discuss issues pertaining to her relations? I mean her own relations or her father, her mother, her junior ones. Have you ever? ”He said No! I said, “Well, you are guilty.”
3. That you will say bye bye to your parents does not mean that you will not meet their responsibilities. We owe them a lot. The Bible said that we should not forget our parents especially in old age.
4. As children of God, we have our duties towards our parents. We have our duties towards our in-laws. We have our duties towards our extended families. But in all these things, it is our own family first.
5. YOU KNOW THE TEACHING OF THIS CHURCH. YOUR OWN FAMILY, NUMBER ONE. YOUR IN-LAWS, NUMBER TWO. YOUR PARENTS, NUMBER THREE.
6. You cannot take somebody’s daughter and then close your door. No! No! It is an extension of the family. So, if God blesses your hands, make sure you maintain both ends. Otherwise, the Gospel will be reproached.
7. 1st Corinthians 11 from verse 3. King James Version. But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.
8. Let Me quickly rush through Scriptures. 1st Peter 3: 1 – 2. King James Version. Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;
9. While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. Whose adorning, let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel;
10. But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.
11. For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands:
12. even as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.
13. Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered. Amen.
14. I am reading Colossians 3:18 – 19. There, I will stop my reading. King James Version. Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.
15. I repeat. Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.
16. Sisters! Pay attention. If you want to survive in your home without offending God, the Bible said that you must recognize your husband as your head.
17. If you go to the Book of Esther 3, the Bible made it clear, “Every man must bear rule over his own family.”
18. EVERY MAN MUST BEAR RULE OVER HIS OWN FAMILY. THE HEAD OF THE WOMAN IS THE MAN. RECOGNIZE THE LORDSHIP OF YOUR HUSBAND OVER YOU.
19. From the beginning the Bible made it clear to us. It said, “WOMAN, ALL YOUR DESIRES MUST BE UPON YOUR OWN HUSBAND AND HE MUST BEAR RULE OVER YOU ALL THE DAYS OF YOUR LIFE.” [Genesis 3:16]
20. If there is a problem in the home, trace it well to its finality. You will notice that the woman has refused to subject herself under the husband’s authority.
21. If we read 1st Peter 3, you see how God continued on the matter, that a woman can never answer her husband back.
22. A woman in the home is seen and not heard. She makes suggestions, but the husband has the final say because the husband is the head.
23. When a woman is honouring her husband, she is honouring her own God, for her husband is her God. All her desire must be upon her own husband.
24. If you say you are going to heaven, your husband must be behind you. This is why, if you are a married woman and you come to us here, we will send you back to your husband to go and discuss with him because we do not want to give any fake impression. We want to give everybody blessed assurance.
25. WOMAN, BE IN SUBJECTION TO YOUR OWN HUSBAND IN EVERYTHING. THE BIBLE DID NOT SAY MINUS OR EXCEPT THIS ONE. YOUR HUSBAND MUST HAVE RULE OVER YOU IN EVERYTHING.
26. If you are a salaried woman, if your husband permits you to continue working, your money goes to your husband’s purse. He disburses the money the way he wants. Whatever you say belongs to you, your husband owns everything.
27. That is why even if a man sues his wife for divorce in a court, may be the woman has a car, and the man wants to retrieve the car, the magistrate will ask one question, “Mr. man, do you want this car or your wife?”
28. If the man says he wants the car, the case is ruled. The magistrate will say, “Well, you go away, but the woman will go with the car.”
29. But if you say you want your wife, the woman will be automatically restored to the man. When she is restored, the car will also be restored.
30. So, what am I saying? Your husband is your God. You must never answer him back. There are many ways women answer their husbands back.
31. There are some wicked women. When their husband will talk to them, instead of even talking, they will examine the man from head to toe, from toe to head and then walk away without uttering a word. She is a wicked woman. Fear that woman.
32. There is another dangerous type that normally miscarry justice. Give her instruction, she will not take it. She will say that she is offended. She will retaliate with every maidservant that comes her way.
33. Watch her movement. The door becomes her greatest enemy. She will be slamming the door recklessly. That is a wicked woman. You are answering your husband back indirectly because you felt the instruction was not too good for you.
34. All I am trying to say is this. If you want your home be an ideal home for a child of God, obey before complaint.
35. Women are fond of giving excuses. “Darling, please do this thing this way.” “Eeeeh Darling, you know! If I do it that way, look at, look at, look at.”Shut up your mouth. Go and do it first. They normally produce result before they carry out instruction.
36. So all I am trying to say is this. Do not be like such women. The Bible said you must be subject to your husband in everything and allow that husband to have rule over you.
37. Then you man, you owe your wife love. And that love can compel you to tell your wife your means of livelihood. Your wife must be a signatory to your bank account.
38. In this Faith, a man and his wife maintains joint account so that the family will not suffer in your absence. Your wife must know how much you have in your business and how much you have in your bank account.
39. Everything about you must be made known to your wife. This is where a lot of men will say, “Over my dead body. If I should expose everything to my wife, may be one day, she will run away with it. ”Feel free. Allow her to run away with it.
40. Whatever money you are saving, you are saving for your wife and your children. If she wants to abuse it, it is her business.
41. But I want to tell you that the training of the children is the utmost concern of their mother more than their father.
42. That is why women are not jealous, and they are not angry that their husbands are flirting about, but they are angry because they feel that their husbands are lavishing the money that is meant for the family outside.
43. So all I am trying to say is this. Trust your wife to be a child of God enough. So, protect her interest. Wives, trust your husband so that he will be a child of God enough to tell the truth about you.
44. Any day you deceive your wife, her confidence is shattered. Tell your wife the truth at all times.
45. Christian Dike, pay attention here. If you cannot tell the truth to yourself, I do not know whether you will tell the truth to somebody else.
46. Your wife is yourself. You must allow your wife to know your level of investments. It will help her to conserve money in the home. Allow her to know everything about your business. Do not hide anything.
47. To avoid conflict, respect yourselves. I say respect her. Do not ever betray your wife before your parents. Many people betray their wives before their relations. When your mother comes to you or your father or your relations, before your wife, you give him or her one thousand naira and when your mother is going, your wife will go to the backyard, you run to your mother and give her another five hundred naira and tell her not to let your wife know, you have destroyed your wife that day.
48. Your mother is going home with a bad impression. You have told her you married a wicked woman. Your wife is destroyed by you before your parents. If your wife will behave the same way to her own father, she has destroyed you before her parents.
49. And that trouble can never be solved again. I call it erosion of confidence in the family. So, the two of you must guard against it.
50. To all of us that are here, take this instruction. Titus 2:3 – 5 to all of us that are here.
51. King James Version. THE AGED WOMEN LIKEWISE,… One that established a home first will always have more old baskets than those that will establish theirs afterwards. The aged women here should listen.
52. The aged women likewise, that they be in behavior as becometh holiness,…You must be in behaviour as becometh holiness before God.
53. …not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; THAT THEY MAY TEACH THE YOUNG WOMEN to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,
54. To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, THAT THE WORD OF GOD BE NOT BLASPHEMED.
55. Living Bible. Teach the older women to be quiet and respectful in everything they do. They must not go around speaking evil of others and must not be heavy drinkers, but they should be teachers of goodness.
56. These older women must train the younger women to live quietly, to love their husbands and their children,
57. and to be sensible and clean minded, spending their times in their own homes, being kind and obedient to their husbands, so that the Christian Faith can’t be spoken against by those who know them.
58. Aged women here, it is your responsibility to teach these younger Sisters that are marrying today to love their husbands, look after their children in a godly way and to be keepers at home.
59. Notice the position God placed the woman. It is the duty of the man to dictate what the wife will do. If you want your wife to do a little work to help you meet the demands of the family, it is in your hands.
60. But if you have money enough for the upkeep of the home, the position of the wife is in the home. The work that is in the home is enough for every sincere woman. At times, I pity women. I pity them.
61. Even walking about the kitchen and parlour every day is enough. It is not easy to look after children. And still, they will combine it with other duties.
62. And men, by nature, are lazy. That is why if you go to farm with your wife, and come back in the afternoon, you will see the man relax in the chair with bread and Fanta®, but the woman will be cooking in the kitchen.
63. Ten minutes after, the man is roaring like a lion, “Lazy woman! Have you not finished cooking!” as if that woman was in the house. Two of them laboured in the farm, came back together, and the woman has not taken anything.
64. She is still busy in the kitchen to make sure that everybody will eat, and the man is relaxing, roaring, “Have you not finished cooking?”
65. WHAT AM I SAYING. THE POSITION OF THE WOMEN IS IN THE KITCHEN. ANY WOMAN THAT DOES NOT KNOW HOW TO CONTROL HER KITCHEN IS NOT WORTHY TO BE A WIFE.
66. It is unfortunate, women now give stipulations. If you want them to live at peace with you, you must get enough maids. At times, men will hire them [maidservants] before they will marry.
67. The home is built upon the wife. Any home that is built upon the servant is like a house built upon a sinking sand. It must crumble. Any day your maidservant goes away, the family is finished.
68. So mothers, convince the whole world that you are really mothers by building up a godly home full of love where there will be the gentle breeze of the Holy Spirit.
69. To all of us here, we owe it as a duty to advice these young men and these women how to live at peace with their own husbands.
70. I have a Message for everybody, but not today. It is on the 16th. We are not here to preach “Repent or you Perish.”
71. I am here to stir up pure conscience in everybody to show you that we have to live at peace in our families. That is the only way the beauty of the Church can be witnessed outside.
72. From the day Satan crept into families, that was when the society spoilt. And the essence of the Gospel is to restore the broken homes so that the husband and wife can live at peace and rear their children in a peaceful and godly atmosphere. The hour we are in is very dangerous.
EPILOGUE
Lastly, we invite you here on the 16th. Come by 7pm. God willing, we might meet your demands. We will reveal to you the Message of the hour so that you will escape the impending wrath of God.
2. Something is visiting the earth. Anybody that does not know about it, is because he or she does not care. But if you care, you must have heard about it. This generation cannot last more than 2000 years, and this is June 1999.
3. Any moment from now, it will be over. And we know that every 2000 years, something great will happen on earth. We are not expecting any other thing but the catching away of the Saints and the sudden destruction of the wicked.
4. Those that have believed the Gospel of Christ, I believe, will not be numbered among the wicked.
WHEN YOU HUMBLE YOURSELF, SUBMIT YOURSELF TO THE WILL OF YOUR HUSBAND, FIT INTO HIS DREAMS, VISIONS AND ASPIRATIONS, GOD WILL BLESS YOU BY PROMOTING YOU. YOU EARN PROMOTION. WHEN GOD PROMOTES YOUR HUSBAND, HE PROMOTES YOUR FAMILY. YOUR CHILDREN WILL NOT GIVE YOU TROUBLE. YOU WILL BE A BLESSED MOTHER WITH GODLY CHILDREN. EVEN IF YOU ARE BARREN, GOD WILL OPEN YOUR WOMB AND BLESS YOU WITH CHILDREN SO THAT YOU WILL BE NUMBERED AMONG HAPPY MOTHERS AS RECORDED IN PSALMS 133; THAT GOD WILL GIVE GODLY CHILDREN TO THE BARREN AND MAKE HER A HAPPY MOTHER. PROMOTION WILL COME IN EVERY ASPECT OF YOUR HUMAN ENDEAVOUR. IN YOUR OFFICE, PROMOTION, BECAUSE GOD IS WITH YOU. IN YOUR BUSINESS SITE, PROMOTION. YOUR CHILDREN ALSO WILL BE PARTAKERS OF THE SAME PROMOTION BECAUSE WHEN GOD PROMOTES THE FAMILY, THE CHILDREN WILL REAP THE BENEFITS. OPPORTUNITIES WILL BE OPENED TO THEM AS CHILDREN THAT ARE BORN IN A FIRST CLASS FAMILY.
I AM BRINGING ALL FAMILIES BACK Vol. 2; Preached on 14th May, 2017; Page 15 vs. 5 – 8
PRAYER
Heavenly Father, we thank you this day, for it has pleased you that we should stay here and hear your Word. And we have heard and believed. Help us to go home and amend our ways in accordance with the word we have heard from you that it might be well with us in the end. Through Christ our LORD we pray. Amen
Let the husbands and wives come up immediately.